Facing death is one of life’s greatest mysteries. It’s natural to feel uneasy about it, but a hospice nurse’s recent video offers comfort, showing that the unknown might not be so frightening after all.
Julie McFadden, known as Hospice Nurse Julie on YouTube, has been by the side of more than a hundred people in their final moments. Through her experiences, she’s noticed something remarkable: many patients, in their last days, are comforted by visits from deceased loved ones. According to McFadden, these visions are a signal that the end is near, typically within a few weeks.
She’s also the author of the popular book Nothing to Fear, where she shares similar insights. In one of her videos, Julie explains, “Here’s one sign that someone is close to death that most people don’t believe happens.”
Julie goes on to say, “Usually a few weeks to a month before someone dies, if they’re on hospice, they will start seeing dead loved ones, dead relatives, dead pets. This happens so often that we actually put it in our educational packets that we give to patients and their families when they come on hospice so they aren’t surprised or scared when it happens.”
This phenomenon, called visioning, occurs often, though its cause remains unknown. McFadden emphasizes that while medical professionals can’t explain it, it’s a common experience. “We don’t know why it happens, but we see it in definitely more than half of our patients,” she explains.
Contrary to some beliefs, Julie clarifies that these visions are not caused by oxygen deprivation, as many assume. “Because when it does happen, most people are alert and oriented and are at least a month from death, so they don’t have low oxygen,” she notes.
Perhaps the most comforting aspect of these visions is that they often bring peace to the dying. Relatives, friends, or even pets seem to return from the other side to offer reassurance, encouraging their loved ones to let go. Some patients even report taking journeys with these visitors or reliving sensory experiences from the past, such as familiar scents like a grandparent’s perfume or a loved one’s cigar.
Christopher Kerr, CEO of Hospice & Palliative Care in Buffalo, New York, has studied this strange occurrence in detail. According to Kerr, the figures that appear in these visions are usually people who played a protective role in the dying person’s life. “So, they may see a parent who nurtured them, but not one they feared,” he says.
Kerr, like many, doesn’t have a clear explanation for why this happens. He told BBC Brazil, “I have witnessed cases where what I was seeing was so profound, and the meaning for the patient was so clear and precise, that I almost felt like an intruder.” He adds, “Trying to decipher the etiology, the cause, seemed futile. I concluded that it was simply important to have reverence, that the fact that I could not explain the origin and process did not invalidate the experience for the patient.”
While the reasons for these visions remain elusive, their impact is undeniable. For many, the final days are not filled with fear or pain but with comfort and peace. In a world where death is often viewed with dread, the idea of being guided by familiar faces offers a sense of solace.
Though we may never fully understand why these visions occur, their role in easing the transition from life to death is something we can appreciate. Much like life itself, we don’t always grasp the full meaning of what happens. But in the end, if it brings comfort, perhaps that’s all that matters.
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